Life Transitions & Growth

I feel that I am often in some period of transition, whether it is working on a new goal, changing my routine, or releasing thoughts and habits that no longer serve me.

I am in yet again another transition, but first let me tell you how I got here. I am definitely that person who has overextended themselves, who has gone out of their way for others, and who has anticipated what people need. I am using past tense verbiage here because my most recent transition has been focusing my time and energy on myself, my wants and needs from me and to me.

What brought me to this place is the realization that time flies, especially this year, and energy can be easily drained with work, life stressors, chores, and all the tasks that we have to tend to in between. Taking these two important factors into consideration my energy is sacred, it is what allows me to be motivated, to work on my goals, to be consistent, and to have the capacity to communicate to myself better internally.

The funny thing is when you start to put your time, energy and focus inward it can have a negative impact on the people you overextend for, they call you selfish, they think something is wrong with you, and what I have found is some people take your changes personally.

What many people fail to realize and attend to is that you are doing this for you, not against them. This kind of transition can be difficult because when people are accustomed to you showing up for them a certain way (their expectation of you), they then despise the changes that you make. They look at you differently, and try to guilt you into being the version of yourself that poured into everyone else but you.

My advice, which take it how you may, I am fully aware that I am one person on this huge planet we call earth, but don’t let people guilt you into submission, don’t allow people to guilt you into doing what they want you to do, because the reality is that you are not doing anything wrong. You are simply using YOUR time, YOUR energy, on YOU!

Now, I am not saying not to show up for people, but you have to show up for yourself first. If you are tired you are allowed to decline an invitation, this is for you. When you have time and energy that you are willing to share or give that is when you say yes! Yes and no are words we learn as babies, and they are also complete sentences, you do not have to explain your no, you do not have to apologize for your no, because no means no, no translation necessary.

Focusing on myself has allowed me time to rest, work on more of my projects, has allowed me the brain capacity to learn, and has allowed me to be creative and get tasks completed. Again, time flies, and if we are not working on achieving our personal goals then the things we want to change in our life aren’t possible. We have to do some leg work, and focus inward. So, I am reintroducing a new way of being that serves my life better!

Much love,

Gabrielle